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November 18, 2008

Wanda Sykes Comes Out Amid Passing of Prop. 8

Wanda Sykes Comes Out Amid Passing of Prop. 8

More than 1,000 protesters turned up in Las Vegas Saturday for the city’s Join the Impact demonstration for LGBT equality, but one speaker at the Sin City rally took the crowd by surprise -- comedian Wanda Sykes, who chose the occasion to tell the crowd that she is gay.

According to Steve Friess, a local journalist and the blogger behind Vegas Happens Here, the 44-year-old star of CBS's The New Adventures of Old Christine told the crowd how excited she was to see Barack Obama elected president, but she was “crushed” to see the passage of California’s Proposition 8, which banned civil same-sex marriage in the state.

“We took a huge leap forward and then got dragged 12 feet back,” Friess reported Sykes as saying. “I felt like I was being attacked, personally attacked, our community was attacked. I got married October 25. I don’t really talk about my sexual orientation, I felt like I was living my life, I wasn’t in the closet, but I was just living my life. Everybody who knows me personally, they know I’m gay. And that’s the way people should be able to live our lives, really. We shouldn’t have to be standing out here demanding something we automatically should have as citizens of this country.”

Sykes said Prop. 8 supporters “pissed off the wrong group of people. They have galvanized a community. We are so together now and we all want the same thing and we shouldn’t have to settle for less. Instead of having gay marriage in California, no, we’re gonna have gay marriage across the country. When my wife and I leave California, I want to have my marriage also recognized in Nevada, in Arizona, all the way to New York. I’m proud to be a woman, I’m proud to be a black woman, and I’m proud to be gay."

Sykes was not a scheduled speaker among the local activists and dignitaries who were expected to say a few words in front of the city’s LGBT community center.

“It seemed like it was unplanned,” Friess said, noting Sykes had been performing at the nearby Planet Hollywood casino. “She just sort of was suddenly in the crowd.”

Friess, who had interviewed Sykes a few weeks ago and had no idea she was a lesbian, followed up for an impromptu interview after she was done speaking.

"People shouldn’t have to talk about their sexual orientation,” Sykes told Friess. “We shouldn’t have to do it, but with the legislation that they passed, I can’t sit by and just watch. I just can’t do it."

Sykes also told Friess that she felt the exit polls showing 70% of African American voters in California voted for Proposition 8 were wrong. "Please stop spreading that 70% of African-Americans voted yes on Prop. 8 because it’s just not true,” Sykes said.

A recording of Sykes’s speech and interview are available on Friess’s website. (Christopher Lisotta and Corey Scholibo, The Advocate)

Keywords:  California marriage  Prop 8 

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  • Name: BenG
    Date posted: 2008-11-18 8:11 PM
    Hometown: Las Vegas

    Comment:

    I was thrilled! I was there for her Friday night performance and couldn't believe what I was hearing. I was so overjoyed that she appeared and spoke at our rally on Saturday, that I nearly lost my voice for 2 days. Then, I actually had a chance to speak with her - ever so briefly - and she hugged me! I have been on the proverbial cloud 9 ever since. Ms. Sykes, I completely understand the anger you said you felt Friday night. I feel it too. I think they made a big mistake. I'm hoping that we will gain all of our rights very soon. Why should the straights have special rights? I can't wait until wait until this is no longer an issue - like mixed-race couples or those who are members of opposing faiths getting married. I can't wait until the next generation says: "Was that even a problem? Why?" Thank you for openly joining the fight, Ms Sykes. I wish you and your new Mrs a wonderful and long life together! - And I hope to be able to see you on stage again soon!


  • Name: rick wartha
    Date posted: 2008-11-18 4:24 PM
    Hometown: leavenworth, kansas

    Comment:

    I am so proud of u Wanda and your couragous decision.You are an amazing women.


  • Name: Adrian
    Date posted: 2008-11-18 3:52 AM
    Hometown: Northridge

    Comment:

    Brava...Brava.. There you go girl. Are you single?


  • Name: Art M.
    Date posted: 2008-11-18 2:06 AM
    Hometown: SF>CA>USA

    Comment:

    While it's nice that she's come out - she hasn't risked any more than any OTHER gay person that has come out of the closet. We've ALL risked our jobs, our families, our friends, our homes, and our very lives. I'm very proud to have her as my gay sister, just as I'm proud of all of the rest of you - my brothers and sisters - but don't tell me she's risked more than any other of us. We all risk much - but we have SO much to gain: FREEDOM, LIBERTY, EQUALITY. Those aren't just some quaint words we learned in American History class. Those are terms near and dear to us - and we must continue to fight for them just as our Founding Fathers did, just like the North did in the Civil War, just like African Americans did in the 60's, and just like we started to at Stonewall. Welcome to the fight, Wanda. Let's go get our rights.


  • Name: Darnell
    Date posted: 2008-11-18 12:54 AM
    Hometown: North Carolina

    Comment:

    Congrats to Wanda, and other supporting no to prop. 8, and hope to continue to fight this hatred against a lot of us.


  • Name: LIAM
    Date posted: 2008-11-18 12:42 AM
    Hometown: beaumont tx

    Comment:

    Thank you does not seem enough- What you did was for all of us at the risk of your work. Comming out can have an impact on an actor. So I hope everyone goes out and supports our sister- buy her right off all the shelfs! The people who are standing up for us right now, need our support. Go see them, buy their dvds join their websites- put you money where your mouth is. We shouldnt just ban this and that we should lend extra support flex that dollar.


  • Name: Kate Doolan
    Date posted: 2008-11-17 9:02 PM
    Hometown: Melbourne, Australia

    Comment:

    Welcome out Wanda, it is great to be Out!


  • Name: Addie
    Date posted: 2008-11-17 8:08 PM
    Hometown: Cincinnati, OH

    Comment:

    Wow! I kind of figured she was gay, but now I know for sure! She`s always been a favorite of mine. I`m so proud of her, standing up their for us. Go Wanda!


  • Name: George
    Date posted: 2008-11-17 7:34 PM
    Hometown: New York City

    Comment:

    You go Wanda!!! I know how difficult it can be for people of color to come out at the pinnacle of their carrier. We will support you Mama. Look at Kathie Griffen; she makes all of her money from the gays!!! Love you!!


  • Name: Terre
    Date posted: 2008-11-17 3:24 PM
    Hometown: San Luis Obispo

    Comment:

    I hope Wanda coming out will become known to black people who voted in favor of discrimination against gays by more than 70% in California's prop 8 vote.


  • Name: stephanie
    Date posted: 2008-11-17 3:17 PM
    Hometown: austin, texas

    Comment:

    i don't know what it's like to be a celebrity because i'm not one, but if i were, i'd want to be just like wanda sykes. i agree that sexual orientation is not something you should be expected to broadcast, but now seems like an important time to step up and show people that gay people really do exist. and we all deserve equal rights, especially in 2008.


  • Name: David
    Date posted: 2008-11-17 10:18 AM
    Hometown: Fort Laudderdale

    Comment:

    Congratulations, WANDA! I am thrilled for you and wish you ALL the best in life. YOU are a loving, compassionate woman; and are a role model of what an intelligent, progressive woman REALLY is. You are a model American citizen! God Bless you, Wanda. God Bless you.


  • Name: Dan
    Date posted: 2008-11-17 8:59 AM
    Hometown: Pittsfield, MA

    Comment:

    Wanda, you are the funniest, and now you are a freedom fighter too! You should be proud!


  • Name: Tracy Brown
    Date posted: 2008-11-16 11:04 PM
    Hometown: Chattanooga, TN

    Comment:

    God Bless you always Wanda!! If more loved people like yourself would speak out against descrimination...well we could only pray that others would hear and realize the error in their pre-judgements.


  • Name: gregg deneweth
    Date posted: 2008-11-16 8:30 PM
    Hometown: chattanooga

    Comment:

    I have loved Wanda Sykes for years, now I love her even more. All my best to you Wanda.


  • Name: Dee
    Date posted: 2008-11-16 5:33 PM
    Hometown: Washington, DC

    Comment:

    Howdy, hi, Wanda! It's great to see you out here. I had sorta figured. Okay, hoped!


  • Name: bsomers
    Date posted: 2008-11-16 5:06 PM
    Hometown: New York, NY

    Comment:

    How about the following to come out?: 1. Anderson Cooper 2. Sean Hayes 3. Helen Hunt 4. Kevin Spacey 5. Mike Nichols and Diane Sawyer 6. Diane's black cohost on GMA 7. Ricky Martin 8. Tom Cruise 9. John Travolta 10. Zac Efron 11. Matt Drudge 12. Fill in the blank Rock on, Wanda!!!


  • Name: cece
    Date posted: 2008-11-16 4:09 PM
    Hometown: seattle

    Comment:

    thank god it's about time.


  • Name: Tom Kidd
    Date posted: 2008-11-16 2:47 PM
    Hometown: Decatur, Illinois

    Comment:

    Wanda Sykes is one of my favorite comedians and I love her to pieces for speaking up and out for us for a long, long time. I'm even more prouder of her today. Way to go, Wanda; you go, girlfriend! Kudos to you, always!!!


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